During every New Year’s Eve / New Year’s Day movie, event or party, the theme of Out with the old! In with the New! is everywhere. It is in songs, during the required New Year’s resolution discussion and in decorations. This sounds a little like the classic shout of Henry VIII – “Off with their heads!”
I am also reminded of the well – worn adage: “Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.” How about “What goes around, comes around” and “Be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.” I think this is meant as good fun, but sometimes New Year’s requires a lot of thought and reflection. Too much? Really, what do you want to get rid of in this coming year? What do you want to replace it with and what do you want to keep the same? Hmmmm…
What to get rid of:
∞Guilt that your family and home are not magazine ready every day. Just so you know – no one’s is.
∞Constant dread that you could be a better parent or partner. Take a breath and really look at your children and family. They adore you just the way you are.
So should you.
∞Your running shoes. Not the ones you exercise with to keep strong and healthy. The running shoes that you think you have to wear so that you can be on the treadmill taking you to every party, every event, every thing that sometimes takes you away from your children and home.
What to replace it with:
∞Fancy pants. If you are feeling that you, the family or your home are looking “tired”, try some fancy pants! Buy a new lipstick, switch the curtains in bedrooms with each other, rearrange furniture, use the good china on Wednesdays and splurge on bathroom scented soaps & lotions. Be nice to yourself.
∞A calm breath. We tell and teach our children to relax and take a breath when they are feeling stressed or overwhelmed. Often we don’t follow our own advice. This works, we know it does. Try it.
∞Dedicated time. There are 24 hours in the day – I know that’s not enough but that is what it is. Children literally grow and change before your eyes. Make each second, minute and hour count. Read, play, cook, snuggle and fill each of their moments with you. If the well runs dry. Don’t let it on your watch.
What to keep the same:
∞Consistent and successful routines for your children and family. Even if you are the one who has to take a shower at night, or are the last one in the morning. It’s not worth it to try to re-organize the morning routine. It might sound like a good idea in the middle of the winter to shake up the ship. It's not.
∞A child’s security lovie. Don’t be tempted to replace it with a shiny, new Christmas blanket. It’s not the same.
∞French toast sticks & chicken nuggets in the freezer for weekday dinners. Add fruit and vegetables to your dinner to set the model and wait for the cue from your 5 year old that they will try it too.
∞The unwavering, unfailing, undeniable and unconditional love you have for each of your children and all of your family. It really is all that matters.
Wishing you peace, harmony, happiness and love during 2013.
Happy New Year.